A little on me….
Hey there, nice to meet you! My name is Karen and I love to share stories and encourage women, especially YOU, to take time out and put themselves first.
I am a 50 something single woman, who was left a single parent at 25 with a 13th month old son. When my marriage ended, it was just my son and I against the world. But he is now he is nearly 30 and it’s “My Time”.
I’ve lived in Housing Commission whilst on the Single Parents Pension, then studied Tourism and returned to full time work when my son was around 10. I now have a beautiful mortgage and do this on one income. It’s a tough slug, but hey we get there don’t we. Baby steps I say, I mean who needs to eat and have electricity!
I love to get away and escape from reality, even if it’s just for a weekend. And I believe that we all need a light at the end of our tunnel, something to look forward to, especially on those days that suck the big one!
In recent years I have lost both my Grandad at 91 years old (who was like a father to me) and my mother, who was more like a big sister (aren’t all families dysfunctional) as my mother and I moved in with my Grandparents when my parents divorced when I was 8 years old. My Nana passed away many many years ago, but she was def more my mother than my mother was. My mother, in later years was a lot of work, and I mean that in the nicest of ways but you see it was my Grandad that really was her carer in later life and when he passed away, it was my turn to be the carer.
When my Grandad passed away I kept it together until just after the funeral and then fell into a heap. I was both physical and emotionally depleted (my doctors words). I also ended up visiting a Psychologist quite a few times to work through my grief and I learnt from this experience that WE SHOULD NEVER EVER feel GUILTY for putting ourselves first. Because as women, even single women, we put everyone else before us. It the nurturing thing I think that we do, but what we don’t realise is that we need to look after US, nobody else is going to do it and if we fall apart then where will everyone be?
So the message that I strongly want to get out there to you is simply this:
It’s time to put yourself first. Nurture and spend time on you, that way you come back with recharged batteries and ready to nurture those that you love. Your parents, your partner, your children, even your fur babies “
Did I mention that I am a huge animal lover and have three cats and a dog? My son says that I was a “Cat Woman” even before I had kids! Between you and I, I think I should have slapped that kid more when he was younger!
So there you have it, me in a nutshell. Although I am a mixed bag, so buckle yourself in as I am about to take you along with me, in this little thing called LIFE!